Thursday, June 12, 2008

Quarter-life Crisis

A nice forward, guess how many of us would associate with it … :-)

BEING IN TWENTIES - SOMETHING

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends...
maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."

8 comments:

Vishwas said...

This one was an awesome forward.

Nagaravind said...

Really good, maga. Now I'm reeling from a surreal line of thought...
If you could look at it (quarter-life crisis) objectively like this, means you're out of it's influence or...

kaustubhans said...

@vishwas you had got this too ??Seriously .. wonder who wrote it !

@nagarvind I think time would change everything and we cant do much till we are under its influence ... I think the best way to deal with it is not by finding solace in the fact that its happening to all of us, but to actually allow it to simply continue to play on our minds ... we will all be out of it someday !Its like a thunder storm ... we just have to wait till it passes..

Vishwas said...

Yeah. Someone in NamGang had forwarded this mail. :-)

Anonymous said...

I think I've been through this stage at least half a dozen times. The most recent life-crisis was around a couple of months ago when I messed up my gmat exam. I think it's human nature to question one's action every now and then, but I also think some actions need not be questioned - they need to be tried out first and then questioned. I say this after making the mistake of posing too many questions before trying. Alcohol is a fine example:). Well written article on the whole, i must commend your style of writing, although I'm not quite sure why you deviated to talk about one-night stands?!

kaustubhans said...

i guess i did the right job in first trying out alcohol before going back to become a teetotaler...
Btw, I dunno if you have read other comments or the first line of my post.. I didnt write it .. it's a forward i recieved from Poo coupla days back :-)

Anonymous said...

Jee, I should have read the first line, don't know why I missed it. Thanks Kaustubh:)

Unknown said...

Resurrection read n understood. verified with 'word verification'. Excellent script. Can the Bluffmaster reveal himself? I am nearly done here and will be catching sleep in some time. Thanks all..
-BCD (Brijraj)